Archive for June, 2010

Father Knows Best

Sunday, June 20th, 2010

A Father’s love is very different from a Mother’s love.

Today I celebrate the gifts — big and small — of his special love for our children.

  • The journey to parenthood
  • It’s a Girl! It’s a Boy!
  • Sleepless nights
  • Pumpy and Lady
  • Staying up all night in the yellow chair
  • Sleeping on hospital pull-out beds
  • Coming to all the doctor’s appointments — all the time
  • Writing a love letter to each of you
  • Passionate
  • The Red Sox!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Music, music and more music
  • Birthday parties
  • Devoted
  • Dedicated
  • BI
  • Clams
  • Disney (twice!)
  • The Patriots
  • Sailing
  • Cutting the grass
  • Four-wheelin
  • Dancing in the family room
  • Lobster Bakes
  • The Best Pancakes
  • The Dump
  • Gumballs
  • Charging Johnny
  • Number stories and homework
  • Priority
  • Books and more books
  • Tickles and more tickles
  • Meetings
  • Dad’s office
  • Ceremonies
  • Events
  • Games
  • Presents
  • Math
  • The Commander
  • Sunsets
  • Kisses and hugs
  • “My Heart”
  • Bedtime stories
  • “My #1″
  • “My Girl”
  • Bedtime songs
  • More I Love Yous than I can ever count

My husband is an incredible Dad.  (And he has a lot to live up  — just ask my incredible, amazing, devoted, generous, kind,  sweet, brilliant, super, powerful, can fix anything, handsome, cool, nice, best father in the universe Dad.)

Happy Father’s Day!

You Say It’s Your Birthday…

Saturday, June 19th, 2010

No one tells you before you are a parent that your children will be crazily excited when your birthday rolls around.  It’s a surprising and delightful treat and it makes birthdays so much more fun.

The twins LOVE birthdays — especially Mom or Dad’s birthday.  They love the cupcakes, the decorations, the balloons, the gifts, the party. Their joy surpasses our own.

It’s wonderful to be able to give M and J a gift on our day.   Sure, it’s our birthday but it feel like it’s their birthday, too.

Do You Believe in Magic?

Friday, June 18th, 2010

Is there anything sweeter than a child’s belief in magic?

The innocence and wonder.

The trust.

Today the twins shared all the magical details of their class Teddy Bear sleepover (the bears spend the night in school).  Eyes wide, words tumbling out, breathless, they each shared the story of their stuffed animal and what happened overnight in school.

In fact, J was so in awe about finding her bear playing Bingo when she arrived at school (not to mention the bear was in a different spot, too) that she asked me to write my blog post about the bears tonight..

Tonight, I’m soaking up the magic before it disappears…

The Player

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

Today’s gift:   I’m celebrating M’s very successful play-date with a new friend!

It was spontaneous — a surprise really — and longer than our usual play-dates.  It wasn’t perfect, but it sure felt like it to me when M showed me the orange silly band his friend gave him.  (M couldn’t stop saying, “He GAVE it to me, Mom! My own silly band!”)

M was flexible, kind, focused and enthusiastic.  Wow!  I made sure to tell him how proud I was about his behavior and he beamed with pride.  I did, too.

Play-dates are second nature to most children entering second grade.  They have never been easy for M.  M’s sensory issues make play-dates a challenge.  In particular, the unpredictability of other children (their sounds, actions) can make M feel tense.  The wrong chemistry can result in a fight or flight reaction and oftentimes M just wants to “get out of here!”  (And Mom, too.)  It doesn’t help that M’s social skills need work as well so a successful play-date is a huge accomplishment.

This post wouldn’t be complete without a nod to the Moms out there that allow me to be honest about M and his needs.  They are patient and open-minded.

My hope (dream really) is that all my silly worrying now about M’s young social life will be something he and I laugh about with all of his friends in our kitchen one day.

Knock Knock!

Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

Knock-knock.
Who's there?
Toby.
Toby Who?
Toby ... or not to be!

Welcome to Knock Knock Land!

Tonight’s Show features M as the headliner with opening act Miss J.

Get ready to get your laugh on!

M loves words and language and books and now jokes.   I bet you didn’t know how many Knock Knock jokes existed online.  I do. : )  I think M told them all to me tonight.

It’s beyond hilarious to be the audience.  Both M and J enjoy the nuances of language and explaining the meaning of the jokes.

I think Carolines is in their future.

On Call

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

Sometimes when you least expect it, you get what you need.  In my case, it was a phone call today.

When the phone rang this morning, I grabbed it.  Quickly, I settled into an easy chat with a Mom and good friend.  It was after I hung up that I realized  in 45 short minutes I changed the way I looked at certain things and in doing so, new doors opened.

This all sounds mysterious.  It’s not.  Rather, it is regular daily stuff.  But now it feels like new stuff and that is a gift.

A Gina Gem

Monday, June 14th, 2010

I enthusiastically share today’s gift –  words of wit and wisdom from a brilliant writer (and mentor and friend):

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/snow-white-doesnt-live-here-anymore/201006/five-ways-keep-good-marriages-good

I’ve taped a copy of this to my fridge.

As a Mom of a child with challenges, Gina’s post went straight to my heart because I  always try to remember that my husband and I have the most important relationship in our family.  We anchor the twins.  We are powerful when we work as a team.  We are invincible advocates for M (and J).

And we love sleeping, laughing and being together.

Thanks, Gina!

Monkeying Around

Sunday, June 13th, 2010

We’ve been taking the twins to the same playground ever since they were little teetering tots.  Watching them conquer the equipment today marked how much time has passed since they were playground novices.

Playgrounds are great for all children — most especially those with sensory issues like M.  He prefers a quiet playground where he can do all the jumping, hanging, running and swinging (the ultimate sensory work for M) he wants without too many children to dodge.

J, on the other hand, loves meeting new friends and socializing as much as the equipment.

Personally, I love a great swing — the kind that can give you butterflies in your belly when you get really high–and always indulge in a ride alongside the twins.  With each pump, I feel a little closer to my own childhood while enjoying theirs.  It’s fantastic!

The surprise rush of colorful memories of our past playground visits today –  a perfect gift to end my weekend.

Enchanted

Saturday, June 12th, 2010

Once upon a time there was a ballerina.  Her name was J.  Her eyes twinkled and her smile sparkled.  Her dancing brought tears of joy to all those around her.  Everyone loved to watch her dance.

One spring day, there was a special pixie dance and J was the leader of all the other pixie ballerinas.  Her dancing was graceful and fluid and beautiful.  Her glowing skin and radiant smile lit up the entire stage.  J loved dancing and moving and flying about.  She held her body with power and skill.  Her hands were lovely and delicate.  Her feet were gentle and rhythmic.

When she finished the dance, J smiled and smiled and floated away on clouds of pride and joy.

Watching J the ballerina perform this special dance was a dream come true:   a dream that J (and all the pixies and their family and friends) would always remember.

After the dance, all the pixies flew away and lived happily ever after.

The End.

Survivor

Friday, June 11th, 2010

Field Day was today.

It did not go well for M.  (I received an email with three long paragraphs describing M’s day.)

Today’s gift: Field Day is over and it only happens once a year.

Poor M.