Archive for August, 2010

Bippity Boppity Boo

Tuesday, August 31st, 2010

Today’s gift:  tonight my daughter J received news that she has a role  as one of the mice in a local production of Cinderella.  It was a magical moment.  This is her first official dramatic role (though she’s been dramatic for years!) and we are very proud.

I’m thrilled that she has the spotlight these next few months — she is such a good girl and so accustomed to M getting a lot of the attention in our family because of his needs.

It’s J’s time in the spotlight.  Next stop, Broadway!

Babies R Us

Monday, August 30th, 2010

One of M’s biggest sensory issues involves babies.  He has real fear and terror around babies because they are unpredictable, different, and they can’t speak.  They also can have blood-curdling cries — not great for a child with auditory sensory issues.  Since he was very little, M struggled to understand babies — why they cry, what the strange sounds they make mean, and how to deal with the assault on his senses especially his hearing.  He also has been unable to comprehend that their crying does not mean they are hurt or have a boo-boo or worst of all, that something is wrong because he caused it or that the same thing is going to happen to him.  It’s very complicated to explain here on my blog and even more nuanced in real time.  As a Mom, I am perplexed and confused.  As long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to help M overcome this huge challenge.

I dream that one day M will feel comfortable around babies.  As part of my own social skills program/experiment this summer, I decided to carefully work on desensitizing M by placing him in real, natural, supervised and safe situations with babies (all family situations and all cousins).  The support of our extended family has been incredible and it’s been a comfort knowing that everyone understands M’s challenges around the youngest family members.

It’s been a labor of love all summer.  And today on one of the last days of August and summer, we saw the fruits of our labor when M fell in love just a little bit with his first baby.  My three month old niece M is like a little doll and something clicked for M and he uttered words I never thought I would hear: “Mom, Baby M is a cute pumpkin isn’t she? Can we go see her?” and then he grabbed my hand so I could walk him over to her stroller for a visit.

He interacted positively with her and was in close proximity to her — both firsts.  Today I saw my baby grow a tiny bit before my eyes and that was a wonderfully unexpected gift.


Sunday, August 29th, 2010

M discovered the joys of a real southern BBQ this weekend.

Tasty, messy, hands-on.  M was in the mix of all the action — the sounds, sights, the crowds.

He wowed us all with his social skills and his passion for pulled pork.  We all left the table satisfied and full –  and not the least bit hungry.

Smile, You’re on Candid Camera!

Saturday, August 28th, 2010

Tonight my parents (J and M’s grandparents) arranged a photo shoot with all of their grandchildren.

It was incredible to see the world’s best Nana and Papa with their seven grandchildren.  J is the oldest and M is the only boy–special honors that the twins love to brag about to everyone.

The real gift: M was able to participate in the photo shoot and he dealt with all the chaos, noise, direction and unexpectedness and he wore his very best smile.

The gift of the generations captured on a beautiful summer evening!


Friday, August 27th, 2010

Today’s gift:  screaming.

Since M has auditory sensitivity (as well as other sensory needs), we try to be very careful about loud noises and sounds — especially screams.

So tonight when I had the chance to be silly after M was tucked away for the night, I had the perfect opportunity to be a little crazy with my sister and to scream.  It felt great and it sounded even better.

Here’s to hoarse voices!


Thursday, August 26th, 2010

Might as well jump. Jump !
Might as well jump.
Go ahead, jump. Jump !
Go ahead, jump.*

Today my daughter really jumped into a pool by herself.  The moment was harrowing, exciting, dramatic and momentous.  I’m soaking up every ounce of summer fun with the twins and today’s pool time was a real bonus.

I’ll never forget the image of J standing on the edge and counting 1, 2, 3 JUMP with me.  M joined in the fun, too.  By the end of pool-time, the three of us were racing to be the first one to jump into the refreshing water.

Summer is filled with unexpected gifts.  It’s one of my favorite times of the year.

*Van Halen

Dance Fever

Wednesday, August 25th, 2010

Today’s gift:  crazy, fun, wild, throw-caution-to-the-wind dancing around the house.

Summer fun before school starts next week.

Pure joy is in the house.

It’s So Easy

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

Today’s gift is another J gem:

Why does everything get harder when you get older?  When you are young, everyone helps you and when you are older everything is for you to do!

So true J, so true.

It’s Your Birthday

Monday, August 23rd, 2010

It\’s Your Birthday YouTube

(Today’s gift: an inside joke.  Thanks for the dance sistah!)

Table for 4

Sunday, August 22nd, 2010

Today’s gift:  with very little coaxing, M voluntarily sat at the “kid’s table” with his younger cousins.

This is huge, huge, huge!  A giant milestone for a little guy. A great gift to end the weekend.