Archive for September, 2010

Frienemy

Thursday, September 30th, 2010

Tonight on his way to cub scouts (yes!) M announced “I changed my mind.”

My husband asked, “About what?” (assuming it was cub scouts.)

M replied, “[My nemesis] is pretty nice to me now and is one of my best friends.”

A very unexpected — and celebrated — gift.

Open House

Wednesday, September 29th, 2010

Today’s gift: Open House.

Open House is one of my favorite events of the school year.  I feel lucky because I can attend for both M and J.  I don’t take this for granted. Our children’s accomplishments mean so much to me (and my husband).

Like M and J, I’m very excited about tonight!  I can’t wait to read the stories the twins wrote and see the special treats they left for Mom and Dad.

Of course, my ultimate favorite is the chance to write a short note to M and J.  Tomorrow, this note will greet them when they arrive at their desks.

To be continued…

Mr. Kind

Tuesday, September 28th, 2010

Today’s gift:  M’s act of kindness.

Yesterday, M had a tough time at school.  I was down about this and worried about him all day today.

At the end of the day, M busted out with the news that he received an act of kindness certificate today at school for sharing well with another boy!  Even better, the principal will announce this tomorrow over the loud speaker to the entire school.

Catch someone you love in a random act of kindness!

J’s Gem

Monday, September 27th, 2010

Today’s gift: J’s words of wisdom –

“Mom, everyone needs some free time.  And some quiet time.  So, I don’t want to do too much during the day, ok? Can you do that for me?”

This from the client (00ps!)…daughter of a publicist

The Outsiders

Sunday, September 26th, 2010

Dear Rocky, our 9 week old Border Terrier:

First, we have to tell you how much we love you and are so happy to have you in our family!

We hope you like us and our home.  We know you are still adjusting to the sights, sounds and smells not to mention the noise, the furniture, and us.  We are still learning about your needs and your personality so just keep being a good boy (no nipping!) and we will keep doing our best.

As the Mom of two active children, having you in our family makes life even busier for me.  But you are already giving us so many gifts — especially our sensory needs child M.

So, a giant thank you for today’s gift, Rocky.  Since you joined our family, the twins have been spending every spare second outside with you. They are using the swing set again.  They are planting.  They are doing shows.   They are getting dirty.  They have stopped asking for tv and computer.  They have stopped bickering.  They are meeting M’s sensory needs in the best way possible.

Sure, I’m a little sleep-deprived.  And I’m on a strict schedule if I go out to a lunch or meeting.  But when I think of your cute face and how you are helping us all grow, I smile and I know we couldn’t live without you.

Now, come get a treat!

xoxoxo,

Me

Massage therapist

Saturday, September 25th, 2010

I come from a long line of massage lovers.  The tradition goes back many generations.

But now that I’m a Mom, I prefer giving massages to receiving them.  Both of my children embraced my massages when they were infants.  Eight years later, they both regularly crave Mom’s massages.

Tonight, M requested a back massage and I marveled at how my touch can instantly calm and sooth him.  He thanked me with hugs and kisses and fell asleep like a little baby.

After all these years, I’m thrilled I still have the magic touch!

Happy Hour

Friday, September 24th, 2010

I started a regular Friday play-date for M and J after school.

During this rowdy hour, I am a mother, a child, a best friend, a sibling, a chaperone, a coach and sometimes a police officer.

I made up my mind to continue my customized social skills program for M this fall and he continues to progress.  I will do my best to stick to this schedule every week even though some days I’m sure I won’t want to do it.

And on other days, it might be like today’s — a Three-Martini Play-date…(well, post-play-date).

My Fairy Godmother

Thursday, September 23rd, 2010

I found today’s gift taped to my desk:

I am your fairy godmother.

I will grant all your wishes.

Look at me when you feel sad, mad or hurt.

I shall warm up your heart, and fill it with happiness.

I will look after you at all times.

Love, your fairy godmother

P.S. :  My real name is J

Birth of an Actor

Wednesday, September 22nd, 2010

Today’s gift arrived during J’s Cinderella rehearsal:  M accompanied me for drop-off and when we got there, the director asked him to read the script because several children were absent and they needed readers.

M said yes!  But wait, there’s more…

Fast forward 30 minutes and this is the scene:  the director asks M to join the cast and he said yes  (!!!!!!!!!!!!!). They shake hands. Fast cut to our drive home:  M the Thespian is in my car.

I will do a series of posts on this gift!

Enjoy The Journey

Tuesday, September 21st, 2010

A big milestone — not to mention a time-stood-still and I-stopped-breathing moment– is today’s gift.

Recently, M learned how to film videos on my cell phone.  He also mastered the art of archiving photos and creating slideshows on the phone.  This afternoon was very hectic.  At one of our pick-up locations, M quietly played with my phone to pass the time. Suddenly a little boy approached M and then another smaller boy trailed behind him.  The two were significantly younger and smaller than M (triggers in the past for M’s social skills challenges) and they perched on tip-toes to see what he was doing.  Poised to intervene, I moved closer to M and the little lads.

Instead of pushing them away or screaming “You Get Away From Me!” at the top of his lungs, M quietly asked if the boys wanted to see a photo of a tractor.  I almost turned blue waiting for the next interaction.  I fully expected M to ask to go home or hide the phone or worse but instead he offered to show the boys pictures of Amtrak’s Acela.  Soon, he confidently shared facts about the train speed and size and route!   At this point, I tried to disappear into the hall so he could keep at it.  M did and ended the exchange (which felt like an hour but was actually 10 minutes) with a cheerful goodbye.

I keep replaying M’s milestone and can’t think of a better gift to unwrap and share today.