Archive for February, 2012

Blog Love Please!

Monday, February 27th, 2012

Today’s gift:  Circle of Moms nominated My So-Called Sensory Life for their 2012 Top 25 Moms With Inspiring Families list!

Please please VOTE FOR ME please! Please.

Click here: http://www.circleofmoms.com/top25/Top-25-Moms-with-Inspiring-Families-2012

Then, scroll down list and find My-So Called Sensory Life and click vote. I am around #35 right now and need votes so that I make the Top 25 Most Inspiring Blogs.

The best news:  you can vote once-a-day until March 7.

Thanks for helping me — your support is an inspiring gift!  THANKS MILLIONS!  Thank you! Thank you!

Read more about me here: http://www.circleofmoms.com/blogger/my-so-called-sensory-life?blogroll_id=49#_

The Birds and The Bees…and 3rd Grade ?!

Friday, February 17th, 2012

Of all the parenting advice swirling around us today, the one I try to practice the most is Honesty is the Best Policy.

My husband and I tell our twins the truth all the time.  We always have.   If there is an issue we don’t think they are ready to discuss, we delicately direct them to another subject but always with the truth at the core of our actions.

When our boy-girl twins M and J were little, we purposefully used the correct names for body parts and now 9 years later, we encourage them to ask questions about anything.   We are sure that the relationship we are building now is the foundation for all that is to come — especially during the teenage years and early adulthood.

Lately, our daughter has had a lot of questions for us.  She loves learning and is curious about everything. It’s a privilege to be part of her growth.

As 3rd graders, both twins hear words and phrases we don’t use in our home — curses, slang words, and worse.  We’ve had candid discussions about why we don’t like words including “stupid” and “idiot” all while teaching them that Mom and Dad sometimes make mistakes and use the very words we’re telling the twins not to use.  Again, we tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.  We grew up learning that telling is a lie is about the worst thing anyone can do.

Lately, I’ve been calmly thinking about how my husband and I will handle topics that are much more complicated — and important — than cursing and fibbing.  Somehow I thought we had a long time to prepare for THE TALK with our children and I’d silently been collecting facts and phrases for the big day.

So, you can imagine my surprise and picture me choking on my herbal tea the other night when our daughter point-blank asked what the word “sex” means and before we could respond followed that question with these “How do babies really get out?”, “How do they get into a Mommy’s belly?” …and perhaps most poignantly “Do you know anyone that is Gay and has a baby?” !

Gasping for air, listening to our wall clock tick loudly during a long awkward silence, we paused, and wiping the sweat from our respective brows, my husband and made eye contact and exchanged the deep knowledge that we had arrived at one of the biggest parenting moments we’d ever face (and we’d better get it right!).   Thoughts were racing through my head — how could our daughter even know to ask these questions in 3rd grade? How much do we tell her?  Where do we begin? Eeek!!

Taking deep breathes, my husband and I settled into the couch with our not-so-little-girl and we did the one thing we know how to do:  we told her the truth.  She listened — sometimes wide-eyed — to us tell her the facts of life.  She asked more questions.  She pondered.  She hugged us.   At first we both felt like we were jumping into mid-air but by the end of our chat, we were on firm ground again…that is until the next set of questions.

“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth;

not going all the way, and not starting.” — Buddha

Sh*t My Sensory Kid Says!

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

Artwork by:  Melissa Zacherl

Today’s gift:  inspired by two brilliant blogger friends 1) Mom-Of-Twins-Blogger Jane Roper (Babble.com’s Baby Squared Blogger) and 2) Mom Blogger Danielle Ann Michaud-Elwood (Babble.com’s Baby’s 1st Year Blogger and one of my Blogging Bitches!!) I give you:

“Sh*t My Sensory Kid Says!”

1.  “I LOVE YOU, MOM!!!!”

2.  “I HATE YOU, MOM!!!!”

3.  “Stupid! Idiot!”

4.  “Why? Mom? Why? Mom? Why? Mom? Why? Mom? Why? Mom? Why? Mom?”

5.  “I HATE_________ [insert name / object here]!”

6.  “Want to hear my Burp Talk?”

7. “OUUUUCHHHH! It’s too loud!”

8. “Can I go listen to my James Taylor CD now?”

9. “You are KILLING me!” (usual remark getting dressed for karate)

10.  “NO!” (answer to any transition)

11.  “I need more granola with these tater tots!”

12.  “Please can I have more candy? It’s ok for me Mom, it is!” (bouncing up and down)

13.  “I AM sitting! I AM calm!” (uttered while standing and jumping of course)

14.  “May I please watch a few more minutes of YouTube?” (sweetly while his face is an inch from the tv screen)

15.  “My Body, Brain and Behavior are a 1 right now.”

16. “I need Fleece-y RIGHT NOW!” (fav fleece sensory blanket to bury himself in for input)

17. “You are the BEST Mom, Mom!” (whispered as he’s falling asleep and finally NOT moving)

18.  “Will you massage my arm?” (usually requested when I am driving!)

19.   “I’m FINE, Mom.”

20.  “I already pee-ed, Mom!”

21.  “I don’t have to pee, Mom!”

22.  “UGH! I don’t have to go [to the bathroom], Mom!”

23.  “Shut-up!”

24.  “I LOVE YOU, MOM!”

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Check out my Babble girls here:

http://www.danielleelwood.com/

http://janeroper.com/

Plan A Great Birthday Party – CircleofMoms.com

Wednesday, February 8th, 2012

Today’s gift:  a confession — I have always LOVED planning birthday parties for the twins.  So, I was thrilled and excited to find out last night that my CircleofMoms post about planning birthday parties has received over 21,000 hits.

Click here please to read it:

http://www.circleofmoms.com/article/how-plan-great-birthday-party-02874#

Wow!! OMG!! I’m humbled that my own experience as a Mom is touching so many.

I hope you enjoy the post.  Happy Party Planning!